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How mediation can help ease the stress of separation and divorce

Posted: 14th January 2021   In: Family Law

Divorce and separation can be one of the most stressful events anyone has to face in their lives, especially if it descends into recriminations and disputes over money and care of the children.

Thankfully, it doesn’t have to be that way. The government, with the backing of many family lawyers, has been trying to promote a more civilised approach by encouraging couples to try mediation.

Mediation is an informal process in which a trained mediator helps the couple to resolve difficult issues amicably. It is usually quicker and cheaper than going through the courts.

The mediator, such as a solicitor, can arrange meetings on neutral premises when permitted by law or by video conference calls. Their role is to act as a facilitator to help the couple share information and reach an agreement. It is not to offer advice or favour one side or the other.

The approach is non-confrontational. Both parties can still have solicitors present if they wish. This is often helpful if one partner feels insecure in the presence of the other, or perhaps fears that they lack negotiating skills or an understanding of the matters to be discussed.

Mediation can be particularly helpful when a couple want to put the interests of their children first yet find it difficult to reach agreement. If they can find an amicable solution that is fair to both sides then there is a chance that they may remain on good terms after the divorce or separation.

This can be enormously helpful as they may need to retain a good working relationship for many years to come for the sake of their children.

The same principle applies to other arrangements that have to be made when couples separate. They may have to sell their home so the proceeds can be divided between them. They may also have to reach agreements about their investments, their property and their pensions.

It is better if these issues can be resolved in a civilised way that is fair to both sides rather than have a solution imposed upon them by a court.

Mediation sessions may take place over several months so neither side has to be rushed into decisions. It can take place more quickly too where urgent matters need to be resolved.

Once the couple reach agreement, the mediator will record it in two summaries. They should then give those summaries to their respective solicitors to advise  which can later form the basis of a consent order.

Mediation may not be suitable for everyone but for thousands of couples it has already provided a way to reduce the stress and heartache to a minimum.

If you would like more information or would like to discuss mediation or alternative dispute resolution please contact Richard Phillips, Senior Consultant Solicitor, Accredited Mediator and Collaborative Lawyer on 01442 972311 or by email on [email protected] 

 

Posted by: Richard Phillips
Family
Berkhamsted Office